I would like to share something I found while doing some research for Chick in an Empty Nest. According to several posts and articles, the top 5 needs of a man and the top 5 needs of a woman are completely different. If you read some of these articles you would be convinced that women and men simply can not coexist. See for yourself.
The Top 5 Needs of WOMEN:
- Financial Support
- Family Commitments
The Top 5 Needs of MEN:
- Recreational Companionship
- Attractive Spouse
- Domestic Support
- Admiration and Respect
The Way I See It
At first glance men and women do seem to have completely different needs. The other posts and articles seem to point out the differences quite blatantly. If you really think about it though, these needs aren’t so different from one another. You just need to make the needs work together.
After reading the lists you may think I have lost my mind but stick with me for a little bit. I will explain what I am seeing in these lists that a lot of people don’t. When I first saw it I had one of those Aha moments. I seriously almost said it out loud! So let’s just break this down need by need.
Sex and Affection
Men want sex and women want affection. This is a no brainer. Affection is basically foreplay, right? I know, I know, you are going to say that affection has nothing to do with sex. Without a doubt, I say yes it does.
I don’t know about you but when my man shows me affection it has the same effect as an aphrodisiac! It makes me feel good about myself and it makes me want to make him feel the same way. So men start showing your woman how much she means to you.
There are several times during the day that the opportunity to show affection presents itself. As she passes you in the hall take the time to stop her and just hold her. While you’re sitting across the dinner table reach over and squeeze her hand. Come up behind her while she’s doing the dishes and kiss her on the neck. These are things you should want to do and these are things she wants you to do so why not!
Now if a man is showing a woman all this affection then she is definitely feeling good about herself which makes her feel sexy which in turn makes her want sex. BINGO!!! Now, do you see it? OK let’s keep going.
Conversation and Recreational Companionship
Again, this is a no brainer. Women like to talk but they also want someone to listen and talk back. Men want someone to enjoy doing the same things they enjoy doing. Easy, combine them. Women if you want your man to have interesting conversations with you then you need to find out what interests him.
If he likes to play golf then ask him to teach you and while you’re playing together you will have more opportunity to have conversations. If you show an interest in him and what he likes then he will naturally start showing more interest in what you like. This is a win win.
Honesty and an Attractive Spouse
Okay, this one was a little harder for me to see at first but when I did it made perfect sense. Bare with me here, if your man did not find you attractive then he would not have chosen to be with you. Attractive does not mean beautiful. It means the whole package. Your appeal, your personality and the way you treat him all add to make you attractive.
When your man tells you that you are hot or sexy or beautiful he is being absolutely honest with you. This is how he sees you. Yes, I know it means women want men to always tell the truth but seriously if he wasn’t a trustworthy person you wouldn’t have chosen to be with him. Now, do you see it?
Finacial Support and Domestic Support
As different as these sound they are really the same. Drop the first word of each need and you will see it as clearly as I do. Men and women need support from their spouse whether it is financial, domestic or even emotional it is all the same. This is an easy one. Your spouse deserves your support in every area of their lives just as you deserve theirs.
Family Commitments and Admiration and Respect
Again, this one is simple. Men if you want admiration and respect then honor your family commitments. Women give the man that honors his family commitments admiration and respect. I don’t think I need to even go any further with this one since it explains itself so well.
Just Love Each Other
That’s what it is all about. If you want your needs met then make sure your spouse’s needs are also met. It is a two-way street that both of you should be traveling in the same direction. In reality, men’s and women’s needs are not that different.Men’s needs have to coincide with women’s needs to make them work and vice versa.
Take the time to show each other how much you care and remember that out of all the millions of people in this world you are the one that your spouse chose to spend their life with. The best advice I can give here is to stop looking for the differences. Just love the person you chose.
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