Is Empty Nest Syndrome a real condition? According to The Mayo Clinic website: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/empty-nest-syndrome/art-20047165, ” Empty Nest Syndrome isn’t a clinical diagnosis. Instead, empty nest syndrome is a phenomenon in which parents experience feelings of sadness and loss when the last child leaves home.”
These feelings you are experiencing are real. A lot of parents feel sadness and loss when their children leave home and this is normal. You have spent most of your adult lives caring for your babies and suddenly they are gone. This is harder for some to cope with than others. Stay at home moms tend to experience these feelings more than moms who work outside of the home. If you think about it, it makes perfect sense. Their entire lives are structured around their children.
What can I do about Empty Nest Syndrome?
Empty Nest Syndrome is not something you just get over. You don’t wake up one morning and feel fine. This is not to say that there is nothing you can do though. WikiHow has a great article titled How To Recover From Empty Nest Syndrome. You can find it here… https://www.wikihow.com/Recover-From-Empty-Nest-Syndrome. There are several other resources on the internet that may have some good information for you. When I look up things on the internet that are important I tend to stick
There are several other resources on the internet that may have some good information for you. When I look up anything on the internet that I feel is important I tend to stick to trusted sites like the two I listed in this post. I want facts, not opinions.
What I Did To Get Through
What helped me most was having a husband who I was able to share my feelings with. He had some of the same feelings as I did so we leaned on each other. Find someone you can talk to that will really hear what you have to say. If not your spouse then maybe your best friend or even a counselor. Sometimes just saying what you feel out loud will help.
I also kept myself busy. Between work and my new found freedom, I didn’t have a lot of time to dwell on being lonely. We went on weekend trips, long drives, dinner after work… you name it, we did it. You can’t stay on the run all the time though so get a hobby that you can work on while you are at home.
Lastly, stay in touch with your children if at all possible. From my own experience, they want to hear from you as much as you want to hear from them. Just a quick, “I just wanted to see how your day is going”, will mean the world to both of you. Believe it or not, your children are experiencing their own emotions that they may need to talk about. Be there for them.
Don’t let Empty Nest Syndrome make you feel weak or ashamed. These are real emotions that other parents feel too. Just breath, you will get through this.