The children have all left home and the house is eerily quiet. Your first instinct is to feel sad and lonely. I know this because that is exactly how I felt. I wish someone had sat me down and told me what I am going to tell you. Listen up now because this is very important. It is time to CELEBRATE! That’s right, I said it! Don’t let me catch you sitting around feeling sorry for yourself! You have done something amazing and it is time to bask in the glory!
Seriously, your main goal as a parent was to raise your children to become independent adults. So that’s what you did and now you are sitting there feeling like your whole world has turned upside down and inside out. Okay, right now, this is what I want you to do. Go to the nearest mirror and take a good long look at the person looking back at you. That person right there is an incredible person. Why? Because that person was able to survive being a parent and actually excel at it!
You Rock and you deserve to celebrate! Celebrate for you, for your children and for everyone who had a hand in helping raise your children! This is a great achievement and you should be proud of what you have accomplished. You should be shouting from the rooftops just how awesome you are!
Celebrate Your Success
It’s okay to feel good about your children leaving home. That was the ultimate goal, right? In today’s world if you have managed to raise well adjusted, independent children then you are to be commended. That was no easy task. It took hard work and dedication and you deserve a pat on the back! Congratulations!
Now it is time to get back to concentrating on you. Do you even remember what it feels like to put your needs first? Probably not, but you will. It will be hard at first, after all, you have spent at least the last 18 years putting everyone else’s needs before yours. It’s going to take some adjusting on your part but I have faith in you, you got this too!
Putting Yourself First
You can start by doing something nice for yourself. Maybe you could go to the salon and get a funky hairstyle or go to your favorite clothing store and buy a trendy new outfit. Call a friend that you haven’t had time to see lately and set up a lunch date. Just dip your toes in the water and before you know it you will be up to your neck! All you need to do is take the first step.
Do you remember when you and your spouse started dating? It was all about the two of you and no one else in the world mattered as long as you were together. And those butterflies you used to get when you were getting ready for a date? Well, guess what? It can be that way again. I’m not kidding! It’s just the two of you. It’s time to celebrate the love that has lasted all this time. The love that patiently waited for you to come back and put it first is still there just needing a little attention to bring it back to the forefront.
As you embark on this new beginning to your old self you may find that you feel a little guilty. Believe me, your children don’t feel guilty that they left. They have been waiting to do this for years! Your children have moved on to their new lives and they will be proud that you are doing the same. They are celebrating their independence, there is no reason that you should not do the same!
The World is Your Oyster
There are no boundaries to what you can do for yourself now. It’s never too late to start something new. The sky is the limit! What is something you have always wanted to do but you put it aside when you became a parent? I know there’s something. Maybe you want to go back to school. Do it! Redecorate your house. Get to it! Take a month long vacation. What’s stopping you? Nothing!!!
Just like your children you are at the start of a new phase of your life. It’s up to you how you decide to deal with it. You can sit around and let life just happen or you can get off your tush and be the best that you can be! I bet you will choose to celebrate!